Yeah I find using a torque wrench to limit how hard I'm yanking on them can help, especially with old plugs in aluminum. Soon as they budge, even just a tiny little bit, stop, add some penetrating fluid, then let sit for a bit. Don't get excited that it finally popped (if you have a stuck one) and go trying to unscrew it all the way. It may only be partially unstuck and you'll gall the crap out of it.
Oh, and if you really want to get crazy...line up all your NEW plugs and do a resistance test across them. All the numbers should be about the same, but you may come across some that are off. Will they run? Yeah. But I throw them back and get new ones.